Mindset, Your Clan and Growth

Today started like many other days for me. I start my day early, first getting hubby off to his day job and then spending an hour to myself reading, catching up on social media and exercise.Most day are fairly routine. I simply get the pieces of my life and the pieces of the others in my life to fit together into a routine of sorts.

Then it’s time to help my disabled mother get ready for the day. Normally I can get her ready without too much problem.

Today, however, she was in one of her moods where she complained about everything. Now you have to understand, she is a chronic complainer  about little things anyway, but some days it’s worse than others. Normally, I just let it roll off my shoulders since I don’t want to dragged down to her level.

Today however the complaints were bigger and about more than one member of our family.

I’ve always been a fairly optimistic and positive person. Even with all the losses (my dad, hubby’s parents, two grandchildren, a beloved dog just this past summer), and the many times our lifestyle has been beaten down, I’ve managed to stay upbeat and have kind words for others.

You can imagine how living with some one who is negative about everything can take a toll on you. (Luckily I have a very loving, very upbeat hubby and kids to lean on at times.)

Part of moving on to where you want to be in life is to associate with those who you want to be like.

This is  my dilemma: How do you move away from the negative, chronic complainers, the ones who can’t see the sun for the shade or those who just simply refuse to be anything better, especially if you are the one responsible for caring for them?

I can’t very well throw my mom out in the street, can I? No. Anyway, I try to keep the negative vibes to one end of the house 😉

I remind myself to be grateful in some way every day for the good things in my life.

I’ve found this negative, ungrateful mindset is true in many people “trying” to make a living online, especially those embroiled in the make money online / internet marketing niche.  Is there some reason you can’t be happy and kind

I’ve been reading a lot about mindset lately. This post by Craig Ballantyne, the editor of Early to Rise. I believe the way to move on is to be grateful.

It’s a wonderful feeling to express gratitude, to know that my BIG self is overcoming my little limitations and beating down my inner demons, to know that my attitude and relationships in life won’t be an example of “like father, like son”. I’ll never let bitterness and jealousy destroy me like they did my father.

I’m still far from perfect, and that’s why I always consider myself ETR’s most dedicated reader, because I need the wisdom from the daily essays more than anyone else. And each day, inspired by the mentors we publish and their great ideas, I am getting better.  Craig Ballantyne

I am a strong believer in being polite, in sharing kindness and gratitude with others no matter who they are or how they look. I believe you should always expect that in return as well. This means that even in the world of internet marketing their is always someone or something to be grateful for.

For example, I am grateful for my many mentors online  including Lynn Terry of Clicknewz, Nicole Dean of NicontheNet and Alice Seba of Contentix. As well as Craig Ballantyne of ETR, Paul Evans of Nicheology and Carrie Wilkerson of the Barefoot Executive,  Zig Ziglar and Tony Robbins.  I read and listen to each of them everyday.These are just a few of the many I try to learn from.

I aspire to be like them in my own way, soon.

I am grateful to my many clients who I have poured more time writing for than myself 😉

I am grateful for the opportunity to be able to work from home and actually make a living doing it. My Creative Solutions Virtual Assistance service is thriving thanks to many others.

I am  a strong believer in who you associate with is how you become. That’s one of the reasons I spend my rtime online following those who are upbeat, grateful, kind, and moving toward what they want in life. They don’t hang out with the chronic whiners, the I-would-but-I-can’t becausers, the complainers and the victims self-sabotagers.

Most of all I am growing my mindset to one of gratitude, kindness and positivity.

What’s your thoughts? Do you believe your environment and those you associate with affect the way you live and your attitude?

Grow your Success Mindset,

Carol O.